Recently I got to thinking about the laws of attraction and I have concluded that there is no such law. For me, the attraction to the opposite sex (and the same sex) has been rather contrary. No real rhyme or reason to the way I select friends and boyfriends. Looking back at the people of consequence that have broken through my “force-field,” if you will, I’d say confidence is the key. People that appear to be completely comfortable in their own skin have more to Continue Reading
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Birthday Blissful Blues
Another year has gone by and I must say I am none the wiser …or am I? Over the last year I have learned (no, reaffirmed) some things about myself , others and life in general. Where, oh where do I begin?
I guess I start with the easy stuff…
- I’m tall, beautiful and awesome (yeah I said it. If you have objections click here) .
- I feel I have something in me that is dying to get out but I’m currently at a loss. Sometimes I feel like I want to Continue Reading
Humanity Above Religion
This morning you got up and you probably went to church, but are you free of hate? Do you continuously judge and oppress others? Have you formed your own opinions about religion [and life] or do you simply accept what you are told by those in positions of [perceived] power; those who may be biased and pushing their own agendas? Do you think you were created in God’s image and that those from whom you differ were created outside of God’s purview? If you believe in God, you must accept that anything is possible and that no one that walks this earth was created without the expressed consent of an omnipotent and omnipresent God. You must accept that no one can sneak up on God and start a religion that God didn’t see coming. Are you someone that likes to express an opnion but will lambaste someone for having an opinion different from yours? Do you think freedom of speech and expression only applies to you and those who look and sound like you? You cannot be of God yet continuously and unabashedly disrespect, chastise, abuse and debase those created by God. To do these things is to be against God. I dare say – to hate, is to be an atheist. To oppress, is to be an atheist. To judge, is to be an atheist. You cannot believe in God, be of God and be an atheist. God is love, you are of God, so you are love, too. Simple. Or is it?
Though I write this, I have judged many a men [and women] but I know that ”an individual is seen as sinful inasmuch as she or he perpetuates ills that engender the dehumanization, fragmentation, and demoralization of one’s self and others.” Have you sinned? Do you continue to sin? I dare you to say “no.” If you woke up this morning there is a 100% chance that you will sin. So, accept, embrace and move on. Is the sin more important than the act of restitution? If sin is inevitable then how we move past these acts and learn from them seem of more importance than the act itself. Sin is an act that God saw coming; so why apologize to God? If you believe in God then you know it is never too late to confess your sins and be rid of them. But to whom do you confess these sins? I think it is more about confessing sins to those who have been wronged. If God is in each of us and we are created in God’s image then it makes perfect sense that we take steps to right wrongs made against each other, in front of each other because it is all done in front of God. If there is a God, he resides in each of us, so wrongs against each other, are wrongs against God.
While many people claim to be “God fearing” they put their religion above their humanity. This is the only explanation for abusing someone because of their views, actions and beliefs. There is one thing that all of us have in common and that is our humanity. Some might argue that God is a figment of one’s imagination but so what? While others argue they have proof of God’s existence. The bottom line is that we are all entitled to our beliefs, imaginations and free will. We are all entitled to embrace what makes us comfortable as long as it doesn’t infringe on the rights of any other human person to do the same. If we value our freedom to be who we are, as we are, how can you oppose someone else’s freedom to do the same?
So it ends as it started with more questions than answer…and an empty glass of milk.
Love: Slowing Down to find the Improbable Ideal
I recently got to thinking about relationships and how we often see our ex-partners as disposable and unimportant, simply because a romantic relationship has ended.
I have relatively decent relationships with most of the people that at one point or another, were important in my life. People are sometimes a hugely important part of our lives and with the drop of a hat, we would step over them dying in the streets. I understand that people grow apart and that breakups are sometimes necessary for someone’s personal growth (or sanity) but so many of us relegate our former “loves” to the bottom of the garbage pile. I think the ease with which we do this, reflects poorly on us and it begs the question, “how genuine were the feelings in the first place?” Another question that comes to mind is, “Can we be in love with someone we don’t know?” Continue Reading
The Beauty of You
This is dedicated to my dearest friend in the world, Nicholette and her baby boy, Joshua.
*****
Today I cried for You but more so for her
I know the pain now surging through her is infinitely worst than anything I can imagine
If only I could take her pain away
I wish I could go back a few hours
Back to when she was happy, excited and counting down the days
Can we go back to yesterday?
The day before the emptiness began
I remember where I was when I got the news of You
My heart smiled with joy and excitement
I remember instantly wanting You to be a girl
Because I knew we would get along famously
Your mommy only wanted a healthy You, a You to love unconditionally
We went through names and their meanings; we never picked the one that said,“You”
We have many pictures of You growing in mommy’s tummy
Daddy, uncle, grandma, grandpa and countless others anxiously awaited your arrival
You had tons of fans who came out and showered you repeatedly
We marveled at your mommy’s glowing beauty, even when she thought she looked otherwise
She loved You and happily welcomed all it would take to get You here
I sit here now remembering when You were a part of her
The most important part of her
The part of her she wanted to nurture and watch grow into an amazing You
To my best friend, You are an angel
You had a life and soul
You held promise, hope and had so much love
Now, she’ll never really hold You or see Your smiling face
Even though we didn’t get to meet, You are still a part of all of us
Mommy now knows a love she never thought possible and that’s because of You
We won’t ask why You left us
We won’t cast any blame
We’ll say good-bye with peace and love
You’re mommy’s forever star
-Always and Forever, CNC
