I got to thinking about relationships and the law of averages. If you are currently in a relationship, it’s because you batted zero for whatever the number of relationships you have had in the past. If all past relationships ended in failure, it is reasonable to assume that the next one will hit it out of the park and you will be happy with one random person forever!
It takes a strong person to live in the moment and enjoy their current relationship without the dark cloud of failure looming at every smile. It takes courage and a lot of commitment to say to yourself “this is it, she is the one” or “he is the one” even if deep down you suspect that everyday of happiness you have with this person takes you closer to that day when it all falls apart.
I live my life out loud and open because I think the more of my life that is out there for the world to see, the less of it I can be in denial about. Denial is convenient and easy and I think it is the mother of all relationships that live in traction. Being alone is hard but I like a challenge (and ordering pizza is so much easier.) Denial is for sissies and little kids who don’t know better.
Even though denial is easy, those who chose it have to make a commitment for the long haul. Knowing the truth and choosing to create an alternate to believe in reeks of insanity.
If the laws of averages hold true and my train wreck of past relationships evens out, my next relationship may just be that home run. Then again, I may just be in denial and on my way to a complete mental breakdown.